conclusion

Interpersonal communication teaches us how to communicate and how to control the conversation with other people. It also relates to our daily lives because we have the conversation everyday right? In chapter 1, it shows us about conversation between two person. Culture also involve in our daily conversation because we communicate with people from different culture. Johari Window is in chapter 3, which help us to know our self esteem. Chapter 4 is about our perception towards other people. Listening skills also important in our lives. It is in chapter 5. We will listen to people who we like. In chapter 6, it is about verbal and nonverbal message. Both of it is important role in our communication. Chapter 7 is about verbal communication. Chapter 8 is nonverbal message which is emblems and others. Messages and conversation is in chapter 9. Chapter 10 is about universal in interpersonal relationships. It is about relationship in culture and technology. In chapter 13, it is about conflict. Conflict helps us to be more mature in life. The conclusion is interpersonal communication helps us a lot in our daily conversation.

chapter 13

Everyone have conflict in their lives. The goes same with me. I have conflict with my family, with friend and jobs. My conflict that happen in my life is with my family. It is about my mom and step father. Why it is hard to my stepfather to shows his love and care to me. I need love from someone that called a father to support me in lives. But he always try to ignore me. I always said to myself to be strong and to act like I don't need anything from him. I only got love from my mom to support me. But, I always jealous to my friends and siblings because they have their father to take care of them and love from their father. Now, I only can pray and hope one day, he will accept me as his real daughter.

Chapter 10

UNIVERSAL OF INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIP

In this chapter, I use a six-stage model of relationship. I very interested on this stage because have related to my experience. My hobbies is chatting with everyone. Now as we now many website that we can join to chat with someone. But I likely to join Rumah panjai and Rumahpanjaiborneo.com because we can chat with person that have same religion and nation with me. Mostly person that chat at that website are from Sabah and Sarawak. "Agi Idup Agi Ngelaban and Aramaiti" is the motto of that website. Like other people, I also add everyone from that websites as my friends. When I add one guy that use dinize as his nickname, I start my open channel. That is my first stage, which I said 'hai, mansa ruai nuan dulu'. After he reply my comment, I use second stage that is involvement. I use my intimacy stage to tackle him. After a few day, I chat again with this guy. I said that his eyes is cute. Then, he asked to exchanged handphone number. We started to message each other and after we are friend for 1 month, he asked me to be his lover but I rejected because I jsut want him to be my friend. That is my forth stage which is deterioration. But he try to tackle me to be his lover, I just said to give me some time to think about this. He use 5th stage which is repair. For 6th stagethat is dissolution, my answer to him is just to be friend and know each other first. That is my funny experience when I join this iban's website.

CHAPTER 9-MESSAGES AND CONVERSATION

ME AND MY COUSIN.... My relationship with my cousin too close. Even though us no in same ages. She is Malay but for us nothing important than my family in this world. But in our conversation, for other people that hear us when talked maybe rude for them. But for us is not rude, because when me and her talked like that it cool for us. For example, the opening conversation for use like "oi pok pa polaj sia". After that i will asked "pa cerita ko nektok", that is example of feedforward conversation. After greeting each other we will focus on our topic. But now if i sms with my cousin, we will talked about her child. That is our business conversation. Sometime i out of mind if she asked me about baby because i doesn't know about baby. I will asked my mum and my aunt to solve her problems. When the problem is solved, she will immediately end the conversation. Just send a sms said "bye and thank pok".

CHAPTER 6-Universals of Verbal and Nonvervbal Messages

Sometime me and my mother use verbal and nonverbal messages. 1 day, i asked my mother to go with me, but she doesn't answer me, so i go to sleep, because disappointed my mother not answer me. In my mind, my mother not answer me because she don't want to go. That is my 1st perception when my mother not answer my question. Not only that, when i messages with my mother and asked about my siblings and my father at Miri, she just answer "all fine". I also asked my mother why my father resignation. My mother never answer my question until now. Now i know if my mother not answer my question that mean she don't want to that thing or difficult for my mother to answer that question

chapter 5-listening in Interpersonal Communication

On 17 April 2009,i called for a interview in nursing. when i go to the interview, the interviewer asked me either i still study or not. i answer the interviewer that i still study. When the interviewer advices me during the interview i received all the advices as my new lessons. The interviewer advices me why i want to waste my diploma, because the job that i apply just use a SPM qualification. The salary that i will get if i accept this job only RM1000. if i finished my diploma and apply this job use diploma qualification i will get more salary. After the interview, i asked my aunt why the interviewer said like that to me even though i also like to be nursing. After my aunt gave her opinion and gave reason why the interviewer said like that i understand the interviewer want me to study 1st. Because she said everyone have SPM but how many people have diploma. That the question she gave to me. I will remember all the advices that interviewer gave to me and used as my challenging to get a new job. I will evaluated all the advices that interviewer said and also what my aunt advices me too. It hard for me to choice the good thing for my future, my responding on this case I choice to finished my diploma 1st.

CHAPTER 1

CHAPTER 1

Interpersonal communication is an interesting subject to learn. What I know about this subject are it communication between 2 person and not more than 20 persons in group. Dyadic primacy is relationship that can be two or three in group. All in this group can talk to each other about anything without one person not understands the conversation. The example situation of dyadic coalitions is when a group of meeting person wants to make a decision and have 2 groups that will say agree and disagree to achieve a particular goal. Form of interpersonal communication have 2 but for me I mostly like face to face communication this is because we can see the body language on that person. When we talked to someone or in a group we must talked effectively and inappropriately. We must talked 1^st to open channels of communication when we in silent situation, this method will give us more benefit.

How would you describe the optimum level for relationship ambiguity? For example, would you want to be certain about everything? Be kept in the dark about certain things?

This is my 1^st situation on relationship ambiguity. My father has passed away went I was 2 years old then went I’m 7 years old. My mothers decide to marry again. I’m too scared when I’m thinking about my mother decision because is it he will accept me as like he child although I’m just only step daughter. When my mother have just married, I always ask myself especially about my step father is it he will accept me and can give attention to me as like he child or just make he responsibility only and the surely relationship with my step father it’s not like he own child but I always thinking actually what my step father want from me? Is it I’m he own child or just do the responsibility after he married with my mother only and now I’m already have two step sister and 1 step younger boy.

This is my 2^nd situation on relationship ambiguity. This situation happen to me went I meet with one guy. Me and this guy very close, any problem we would tell each other. Other people see us most like a couple but we didn’t know what the status relationship we are. We got a bit some love when this guy caring about me. We disgorge by heart from heart so they just make our relationship like a normal but at the same time we not more just a friend but mostly like a couple.

I try to not involve in this relationship ambiguity because relationship ambiguity make me thing more negative than positive thing to that relationship.

I try not to keep in the dark for this thing but I scare to tell the true thing. For my opinion, our relationship cannot hush just like that but better the truly must be know because it’s more about the heart.

CHAPTER 8-NONVERBAL MESSAGES

WHAT WRONG WITH MY FAMILY

In chapter 8 I learn about nonverbal messages that what we see to other people without say anything. With my experience that happen in my family between me, my mummy and my stepfather. My stepfather has conflict with my mother and as a younger daughter I protect my mother from my stepfather. The next day I know my mother sad about that but she still act like nothing happen. Form this I know after I learn intercommunication this situation under facial management(neutralize). Even have a problem we still act like normal person.

CHAPTER 7-VERBAL MESSAGES

When I in secondary school I like to friends with many people that have different attitudes. For me bad attitudes mean bad in academic, good attitudes mean well in academic. However I have friend that same class with me during I form 4 and 5. In academic he not good but in music he very well. For me what can make he survive with music if without knowledge. After 1 years I not meet his, on malam gala seri gading 2 he and his band perform that nite. Now I know music also can make money.

CHAPTER 4

In chapter 4 I learn about someone give a perception without noticed the true attitude. I one of the person that always judge people before know they attitudes. But I my real life I have experience that I know I woman that same village with me. This woman is always listening to her mother and always goes to church. So I think when someone always goes to church that mean good person. However when she 19 years old she change into negative attitudes, she run away from home with one guy. I very surprise with her that run away from home. After a few month she go back to home and decided to married with that man because she already pregnant.

CHAPTER 3

In chapter 3 I learned about self in Interpersonal Communication and I learned topics dimensions of the self and self disclosure. In this topic the most related with my experience is on topic dimensions of the self that develops at least four sources.

1. OTHERS’ IMAGES OF YOU

Be a student is the most fun in our life because we doesn’t to think many thing in our life just focus to our study. However studies in university will change our attitudes. Like me to make friends always with us we must know how to act in front them. From that I will ask them how they feel with me is they comfortable when I around them or not. From that I will know what images that they give to me.

2. SOCIAL COMPARISONS

A social comparison is the best way for me to compare my selves with my friends especially in examinations. This is because I will feel challenge when my friends get a good result in the examinations. From that I will study hard to get a good result in examination.

3. CULTURAL TEACHINGS

Cultural teachings make me as a teenager know how to think which want is good for me or not. Not only that it also teach me how to manage my selves when I meet everyone around me. For example, I will act like a little kids when I with my young sisters because want them feel comfortable with me.

4. YOUR OWN INTERPRETATIONS AND EVALUATIONS

As my selves I always evaluations my selves when I do something. For example, I just go back to my village during the Gawai and Christmas seasons only. On that behaviors’ I think that my grandmother and grandfather know my reason why I only go back to village during that season only.

CHAPTER 2

STAGE ONE: HONEYMOON



What I thing about stage one: The honeymoon is good experience for everybody. This is because everything we make by ourselves, we far from our families and we are freedom. My 1st experience when I got culture shock stage one: honeymoon when I go back to my village during the Gawai Day. This happen when I was Form 3, 15 years old and on that time my parents was not going back again to my village because of my stepfather. That village is my father home town so my stepfather doesn’t like my mother go back to that village again. Every years until now I celebrated my Gawai Day without my family and only my aunty and her family, my grandmother and grandfather celebrated with me. However during the Gawai day, my friends invited me to visit to their house. Not only that I and my friends plan to had party and barbeque. That was the 1st time I drink and drunk. On the next morning my grandmother and my aunty scold me because drink on that time and not good drink alcohol in young ages. My aunties also scold me that I easy be influence by my friend. I very sad with my selves because make my family disappointed about my attitudes. Even honeymoon stages make us have good experience but beside that it also can make other people disappointed with ourselves